|Relationship Status:||Happily Married|
|Employers:||I work for my family|
Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations
I have a continuing program of research, (what mother doesn't) in the laboratory and in the field, (normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters, (first the Lord and then the whole family) Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities, (any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money.
|Political Views:||You don't really want to know.|
|Religious Views:||saved by grace|
|Favorite Quotations:||I am "learning that hope is terrifying and requires great courage and defiance; faith takes grit, focused determination and nerves of steel; love can be desperate and hurt so bad you want to cuss. So, while faith, hope, and love may sound like all hearts and flowers...in cold reality it takes blood, sweat, and tears." ~ Rhonda Wray Hartley|
"You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life." ~ Winston Churchill
Homemade happiness is better than store-bought. <3 br="">~me
Delusional husbands are the best. <3 br="">~me again
Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing that it is stupid.
~ Albert Einstein3>3>
Why be difficult, when, with just a little effort, you can be impossible?
Courage doesn't always roar; sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow". ~ Mary Anne Radmacher
"You know you've read a good book when you turn the last page and feel a little as if you have lost a friend." ~Paul Sweeney
Most CPS workers are like Slinkies - they're not good for anything, but they bring a smile to your face when you push them down the stairs.
"Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire." ~ W. B. Yeats
|Bio:||I am Me. I try not to worry about what others might think about me; I try not to *wonder* what others might think about me, too.|
I'm a dominant Type 4, with a strong secondary Type 2. For those of you who don't know what that means, here are some examples:
*type 4 things*"Penguins, for example, are very loyal to their young, going to great length and sacrifice to keep them alive in very severe conditions."
Natural Gift: Perfecting "Here's how we can make this better!"
Being told a lot to "not be so serious."
Reflective quality, mirroring back truth to others. (Okay, that may sound egotistical, but it really isn't. It seems like no matter where I go, people's true natures come out.)
Movement is the most rigid. "Type 4 is the most misjudged and unappreciated. We tend to perceive this energy as authoritative, critical, and more serious."
Likes to "play by the rules", as long as you trust the source of the rules and the rules themselves.
"You can't help that what you first see is what is weak or at fault. You may not always share this insight, but you will always lead with those thoughts."
"Your presence of authority and boldness can unknowingly feel intimidating to others."
Steer away from things you can't naturally be perfect in.
Take things literally in black & white. (I can see when people are saying something silly, but my first reaction is to always be literal in my response back to them.)
"You reveal your innermost thoughts and feelings reluctantly and only to those whom you trust. You easily empathize with others, and have the ability to make very deep commitments."
Labeled a "know it all".
Quiet about thoughts until clear in them. Strong opinions about what is right and wrong. Might not share those opinions and insight, depending upon the audience.
Can sound blunt, critical, overly negative, too straightforward, too authoritative, bossy or condescending. ( I don't like to be this way, but it just happens!)
Build wall around you. Seem cold and distant, because it's less painful than being misunderstood.
Loyal and faithful friend, true to your word.
Work: thrive in a position where you are your own authority. Do not need someone watching over or micro-managing things. Can see how to do things better.
Think that you're the best driver on the road. :)
Do not like to be rubbed or patted in the same spot over and over.
Like to edit and proofread.
Want laundry folded exactly, certain ways. (with kids, I've gotten over that some)
Stable and consistent; people can trust you. (whether they do or not...)
*and type 2 things*I was always told to "Make up your mind!" I was always the last to decide what to order at a restaurant. I try to NOT be last anymore, but still...
Comfort is a priority! Especially in shoes. I remember how horrified my mother was when I started wearing Birks all the time instead of pretty shoes. If my feet are happy, I don't much care how they look, though if I can have both its an awesome thing :)
Steady, easy-going, calm, slow. (Yeah, I don't really inspire people to activity :D)
I do love to touch soft things.
Lead out with questions and a degree of skepticism. Yes, although I then use those q&a to make things work better, like a 4.
"When you share an experience or tell a story, you include a lot of details."
I am sensitive, but I rarely show it openly, I think. I think my 4ness is why people think I'm "tough", but it's only Jesus that keeps me sane/calm in the madness I encounter in life.
"You like to 'fuss' over details." Maybe this is why I enjoy quilting, at least the choosing pattern design/fabric and cutting/piecing. And get it perfect :)
"You encourage other people to relax and take it easy."
"If you are challenged or dealt with too intensely, your tendency is to hold back or go within, feeling the need to retreat in some manner. You will then think about what you may have done to cause this response in another person, often assuming it was your fault." I don't think this is a bad thing to do; introspection has served me well, better than just wildly accusing the other person. For important issues w/ dh, I take the time to write down what I want to say, to get it right.
"...the willow standing elegantly in the breeze, offering comfort and support to anyone who sits under its shade to rest and relax for a while." The willow has always been my favorite tree :)
"You can feel overlooked or unnoticed."
"Change can be slower for you. You like to think ahead and know where things are going."
I love photos and feel that having a lot of family photos, especially IN albums to be enjoyed by everyone, is very important.
"You are slower in responding. If you are called upon to answer quickly or to speak without preparation, or if you fear that too much depends upon your response, you become restless and do not find the right words and consequently often make a false and unsatisfactory reply."
"prefer to observe rather than participate in larger social settings." Not entirely true. I do observe a lot, listen to several conversations, but I also want to participate. Just not always sure HOW.
"You are sensitive to how everyone connects and fits together as a group."
"You do not see yourself as a slow worker."
Smooth, graceful walk. No bounce in my step.
A pile maker. "When cleaning you like to take more time to go through things in detail."
A gift of steadiness. Offer steadiness and consistency.
Detailed, conscientious, and methodical.
Can see another's point of view, and know where they are coming from.
SO, if you don't understand me after reading that, then I don't know what to tell you! :)