My Life According to Facebook

Since it has been so long since I wrote anything, I will share a brief summary of the year 2010 according to (some of ) my status updates on Facebook.

My Children Belong With Me

These are the emails I wrote to my parents, Raymond and Barbara Faulk, concerning my children that they are keeping from me, as well as the replies I have received.

January 21, 2014

I have to put this in writing because I would never be able to say everything on the phone.

God gave me nine beautiful children, and with that gave me the right and responsibility to care for and raise them. I have never shirked my responsibilities, nor have I wanted to.

Eight of my blessings were kidnapped from me, and the ninth nearly stolen as well.

Children will adapt to all sorts of situations in order to survive (physically and emotionally).  They might seem happy, but it doesn't mean they are.  Or they might really be happy, but it doesn't mean they wouldn't be if they were where they should be.  And is happiness the point anyway?

Children need to be with their parents, and parents need to have their children.  It's the way God planned it, so it is best and right.  Children also need their siblings, ALL of them, together with their parents.  They suffer in who knows how many ways by not living with each other as a proper family.  To be deprived of their own family is to be abused and traumatized.

You (Daddy) had your family torn apart when you were just a child.  You didn't get to see or live with your parents or your brothers and sisters after that.  Don't you think that was traumatizing to you?  To all of you?  So you ended up in a "good" home, you say, and you think you turned out just fine.  But did you?  Do you realize that the only stories you ever told us from growing up were when you were with your real family?  The only things I know about your life after you were adopted were that your adoptive dad was nice and he took you fishing and died when you were in college, and that your adoptive mom never wanted you and stole your money from your bank account and was a bit crazy.  Not ideal, not the way God intended.  So why are you intentionally and willfully creating "orphans" of your grandchildren??  Your actions, and inactions, directly contributed to four (five) of your own grandchildren being permanently removed from their rightful families by adoption.

I want my children home with me, and I always have.  They are my responsibility, not yours.  It is my right and my privilege to raise them, teach them, care for them to the best of my ability, with God's help.  Their safety is MY concern, and always has been.  If you are concerned, then your role is to pray and ask if there is any help you can offer. Your "concerns" do not override my God-given rights to parent my children.

You need to remember that you are grandparents, not their parents, and as such should be a step removed from the process of raising them.  By keeping my children from me you are harming ME, your own daughter, more than you could possibly know.  If you don't have enough concern about making things right, and helping me instead of hurting me, then how can I feel good about you having my children, and trust you to care for them properly?  How can I think of you as anything other than kidnappers?

I don't remember a single thing you ever said or did to help me get my children back.  Instead you worked with the social workers against me.  You went to court to say how marvelous you were and that my children were only great and well-adjusted because you were in their lives, nothing ever about me being a good parent. So yes, you were a conspirator to kidnapping and destroying my family.

BUT NOW you have the ability to put things to rights, to help put my family together again.  Will you do it?  Or will you hide behind the "legality" of what you're doing?  Abortion is legal, but would you take your granddaughter to Planned Parenthood?  Homosexual marriage is acceptable and "legal" in many states, so would you attend one of their weddings?  Social Services isn't even constitutional, and has mutated from an organization designed to assist families that ASK for help into essentially a kidnapping organization that destroys millions of lives every year.  They make so much money feasting on families.  Satan is at work, using them to destroy what God designed as the foundation of civilization, The Family. The government of this country is not God-fearing, but is a god unto itself, and one which many people worship willingly. 

Joshua 24:14-15 "Now therefore fear the LORD, and serve him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the LORD.  And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD."

You "feel good" being a martyr who "must" take care of all these children, and people admire you for it.  It's perfectly acceptable by society these days to be in your position, but is that what God wants? Are you getting to live the way you should at this stage of your life?  No, you aren't.

The question I have asked repeatedly these past years and have yet to receive an answer to is this: How can you justify your attitude and actions with Scripture?  Can you show me that God is actually pleased with what you have done and are still doing today?

You ask if there's anything we need, and honestly I feel offended and hurt at that question.  This is what I need: MY family!  

So I ask you again: will you do what is right?  Will you return my children (all of them!) to me, and do whatever is necessary to protect my family from those who would destroy us?  Or will you continue to participate in our destruction?  Please help us.

(no reply)

January 25, 2014

Some more thoughts.

You probably don't know this, but the first time Mark talked to his ex
on the phone a year after she left him, she was on the verge of
returning the four younger children to him.  So why didn't she?
Because she was worried about what the judge and her friends would
think of her.  She wasn't concerned for their safety or welfare,
because she knew Mark wasn't dangerous!  She was more worried about
maintaining her image of being a victim and continuing to spread the
stories (lies), than to let the truth be known and have people look
down on her.

She also didn't have a problem with me (someone she had never met)
"supervising" visits, and then with the kids being with Mark for
weekends and even going out of state.  Why not?  Because she knew he
didn't pose a threat to anyone, that he is an honorable man.

You know what Matt is doing to Wendy and their girls.  That is what
Dixie/Symphony did to Mark and their children.  Making up stories to
put themselves in a good light with everyone while making the other
parent look evil.  I will never understand how anyone can do that to
their own children!  Children need to have both parents and be able to
love both parents, not be forced to take sides.

Dixie didn't WANT her children.  She tried to talk him into adopting
them out so she wouldn't have to care for them.  She wanted Mark to
buy or rent her a separate place to live so she could have "me" time
and work on her music (she was never a serious musician).  She talked
about committing suicide, and spoke in detail about how she was going
to do it.  And these aren't just Mark's stories, we heard from a lady
who knew Dixie before she left, and she told us even more bizarre
things that Dixie was saying to other people.

But she couldn't just leave Mark, because that would make her look
bad, so she had to wait until she had the right story to tell, and
having the kids ensured she would get plenty of welfare, too.

When we were living in Rainier, Adam was about to come home to us, we
just had to do a "home study" first.  Well, that was when we finally
had to give the social workers an address for where we were living,
and that's how they knew where to find me to steal Caleb.  (And thanks
to your email to Njoroge they had "confirmation" that there was a baby
they could take!)  Washington knew Mark wasn't dangerous, and were
going to return Adam to us, and/or return all the children to me alone
at that time.  But Oregon used the excuse that "they have children in
out-of-home care" to attempt to justify taking my baby, and then
Washington turned around and said, "well Oregon took their baby so we
can't return the other children to them."  It was all a twisted circle
of illogical reasoning, only meant to keep my children away from me,
and ensure that they kept receiving federal $$ for having them in
their "care".  Never an allegation of abuse or neglect or inability to
provide basic care.  Our rights, and those of our children, were
violated repeatedly by people who profit from tearing apart families.
They didn't know what was wrong with us (because there wasn't anything
wrong) and so they didn't know what "services" we needed (we didn't
need any).  We were allegedly "clients" of Njoroge, and yet we never
asked the state for help!  And if we really were her clients, then why
was she taking us to court to steal our children?

Is any of this anything you ever even considered?  Didn't the way
things were going bother you?  You never offered us sympathy or
support, so I can only surmise that you really thought it was all fair
and just.

(still no reply)

February 17, 2014

It's been 4 weeks, and I haven't heard a word from you.  I know you're busy with Grandad, and that's what you should be focusing on.  But you have MY children as well, when they should be with ME.

You do realize that Adam has another set of grandparents, right?  And another uncle, and a cousin.  It's appalling to me that you do nothing to allow Adam to have a relationship with his family.

When are you going to give my children back to me? When can I come get them?

(reply from my mother)

February 21, 2014

Yes...very busy...don't get to computer often, but mostly I am writing down how I can tell you how things looked from our point of view...never got to tell you that and you never told us what you said in the last email.  His other grandparents are welcome to see, phone, or email us.  I was under the impression that they don't want anything to do with all of this.  I believe they still have my address.  Talk to you soon.

February 21, 2014

"and you never told us what you said in the last email." I guess I thought we'd told you some of that stuff about Dixie, but there were a lot of things that just never got discussed.  And then when we didn't have my children either, there just wasn't an inviting atmosphere for discussion.

"His other grandparents are welcome to see, phone, or email us.  I was under the impression that they don't want anything to do with all of this.  I believe they still have my address."  I'm not sure why you think they want nothing to do with their grandson, as well as the other children.  Did Bryan tell you they sent him a wedding gift (after I told her the news)?  Mark's dad is difficult in many ways, and he doesn't want to get involved in the court battles, and therefore doesn't allow Carol, Mark's mom, to do anything either.  It's unfortunate, because it could have made a big difference w/ their other grandchildren.  Carol has attempted to keep in touch with Mark's children, but she wasn't allowed to talk to them if she called, and any mail she sent was returned.  I imagine she is tired of reaching out only to be rebuffed.  It would go a long way towards her happiness if you could send a letter (she doesn't do email), photos, and maybe make a phone call and try to get Adam and the others to talk to her.  (For that matter, it would have made a huge difference if you had done the same for ME!)  You should still have her address.  Also, you've moved at least once since she had mailing information for you.

At this point in time, what matters most is doing what is right, which is reuniting my family.  You can share " how things looked from our point of view.." if you want, it might help clarify some things for me, but it is the past.  Regardless, you knew my children were not abused or neglected, and had more than they needed and were well-loved, and yet you worked against me when I needed your support the most.

I await your reply, but even more than that I await the return of my children.

(reply from my father)

February 23, 2014

Adam also has lots of aunts and uncles and cousins in North Carolina and we haven't taken him to meet them yet either.

And to answer the questions "when are you going to give my children back to me?", and "when can I come get them?": It is not going to happen.
I am so sorry about all this, but it is what it is.